I never used to take the time for relaxation or myself. Ţhis lead to lots of unhappiness! We only have one life and I work hard. My body needs to recharge and I need to do things that make me happy. Today I spent the day getting pampered.
I went to yoga this morning, which you all know, I absolutely love. Then, I went and got a facial, manicure, pedicure, and my hair colored. It was so nice to spend my day off on the other side of the chair. For those that do not know me personally, I manage a hair salon fun time 😃
I will try my best to describe the way I feel now… I feel like a new person with no stress. I’m completely relaxed, which never happens to me. I’m sitting at the dentist now waiting for my girls to get done.
In order to understand more the power of relaxation, in will detail what my day off would have looked like prior to my life change. I would have taken the girls to school, then I would have spent the whole time that they were gone cleaning my whole house top to bottom, doing laundry, and pretty much stressing out that there isn’t enough hours in the day. By the time I would have picked them up for the dentist, I would have been annoyed and a mean mom. I also would have been super impatient at the dentist.
How am I now just sitting here completely relaxed without a care in the world you may wonder? What has changed? Three main things have changed in my life that now allow me to relax. All three of these things occurred very easily by just making a choice and sticking with it.
First of all, I have decided to focus on what is important in my life. Every time I find myself thinking of all of the things I have to do, I ask myself which of these things do I want to do in order to make a positive impact on my life and the life of my family. My children will benefit much more from a happy, positive mother than from a spotless house any day. Now, don’t get me wrong, my house still has to be cleaned. Which leads me right to choice two.
Secondly, I have started to rely on other family members to do their share of the cleaning. I no longer find it necessary to do everything myself. The girls have chores that they do and I’m not shy about asking my husband to complete a task.
Finally, I have realized that a few more days of dust never hurt anyone. This was a huge step for me. Not everything in my house needs to pass the white glove test at all times. Actually, this is impossible and when I used to strive for perfection…no wonder I was constantly stressed out over it. My goals were impossible to achieve.
So, I now have some extra time in my schedule to allow for activities that allow me to completely relax, rejuvenate, and let go. Because I have started to be more selfish concerning my own needs, I have actually become more self-less in my relationship with my family. I have a more stable emotional state and I can give them my best. I haven’t used all of my energy on useless things and I haven’t taken myself to the verge of a nervous breakdown over things out of my control.
So, I have a little advice for you….Take time for you to do what makes you truly happy and everyone in your life will thank you for it!