I never used to take the time for relaxation or myself. Ţhis lead to lots of unhappiness! We only have one life and I work hard. My body needs to recharge and I need to do things that make me happy. Today I spent the day getting pampered.

I went to yoga this morning, which you all know, I absolutely love. Then, I went and got a facial, manicure, pedicure, and my hair colored. It was so nice to spend my day off on the other side of the chair. For those that do not know me personally, I manage a hair salon fun time 😃

I will try my best to describe the way I feel now… I feel like a new person with no stress. I’m completely relaxed, which never happens to me. I’m sitting at the dentist now waiting for my girls to get done.

In order to understand more the power of relaxation, in will detail what my day off would have looked like prior to my life change. I would have taken the girls to school, then I would have spent the whole time that they were gone cleaning my whole house top to bottom, doing laundry, and pretty much stressing out that there isn’t enough hours in the day. By the time I would have picked them up for the dentist, I would have been annoyed and a mean mom. I also would have been super impatient at the dentist.

How am I now just sitting here completely relaxed without a care in the world you may wonder? What has changed? Three main things have changed in my life that now allow me to relax. All three of these things occurred very easily by just making a choice and sticking with it.

First of all, I have decided to focus on what is important in my life. Every time I find myself thinking of all of the things I have to do, I ask myself which of these things do I want to do in order to make a positive impact on my life and the life of my family. My children will benefit much more from a happy, positive mother than from a spotless house any day. Now, don’t get me wrong, my house still has to be cleaned. Which leads me right to choice two.

Secondly, I have started to rely on other family members to do their share of the cleaning. I no longer find it necessary to do everything myself. The girls have chores that they do and I’m not shy about asking my husband to complete a task.

Finally, I have realized that a few more days of dust never hurt anyone. This was a huge step for me. Not everything in my house needs to pass the white glove test at all times. Actually, this is impossible and when I used to strive for perfection…no wonder I was constantly stressed out over it. My goals were impossible to achieve.

So, I now have some extra time in my schedule to allow for activities that allow me to completely relax, rejuvenate, and let go. Because I have started to be more selfish concerning my own needs, I have actually become more self-less in my relationship with my family. I have a more stable emotional state and I can give them my best. I haven’t used all of my energy on useless things and I haven’t taken myself to the verge of a nervous breakdown over things out of my control.

So, I have a little advice for you….Take time for you to do what makes you truly happy and everyone in your life will thank you for it!


Something happened to me last night that was a revelation! I have had so many people tell me that my past can be used for good. I do believe this, because I have given my life to God and He can use anything for good. Even though I believe this, I have yet to see the fruit…. Until last night that is.

I had a friend call me about my challenge groups, but she had something else to tell me. She told me that she suffers from addiction and she needs help. I had no idea about this part of her life prior to the conversation last night.

She said something key to me that made me know immediately that I was impacting others by sharing my story according to God’s will in my life.  She told me that she knew that she could talk to me about it because of my past and she knows that I won’t go around talking her n secret to everyone. I finally feel like my changes are leading others to change.

My life’s mission is to help others out of the pit that they are. Since I have experienced freedom, I want everyone to experience it. The life I’m living now is so amazing! Break those bonds of addiction and fill those empty spaces with goodness. Jesus, personal development, and the high you get from a great workout!

I pray that you all make a change to build yourself up today instead of breaking yourself down!

I’m still here!

It has been so long since I blogged! Life has been super busy! I have been working really hard on finding myself in this world. The last few years have really changed the way I look at the world. I am starting to really love myself and it is such an amazing feeling.

The longer I am away from people that break me down and closer to people that build me up, the more I love myself. I am an awesome person and have finally surrounded myself with people that not only say that they love me…. but they act like it. That is so important! Also, the more people I encourage, the more encouraged I am.

We all have heard throughout our whole life to treat people the way that you want to be treated… it is the golden rule after all….. but I think it goes farther then that…. treat others the way you want to be treated and only surround yourself with people that adhere to the rule.

I am super proud of myself for so many things lately! I never ever thought my life would turn around like it has. I thank the Lord Jesus Christ for working with me over and over again and for answering lifelong prayers that I have had. Stay vigilant… stay faithful… stay true… it can get better. There is light at the end of any tunnel you are going through.